Summary: The decisions we make every day are determined by our beliefs system. Our beliefs system is a predominant factor in the increase or decrease of our self-esteem. We can change beliefs using the tools of Neurolinguistic Programming (NLP). The self-esteem largely determines our levels of success and happiness.
Our daily life is full of decisions making that have defined our life through this journey for this land. These decisions have taken us for a series of experiences that we call: happiness, sadness, pain, love, heartbreak, illness, failures, success, losses, etc. When we analyze our experiences, we can see that in each decision-made, we had an abundance or lack of certain resources that determined the way we handle our decision-making.
There are many factors that determine the result when making our decisions and one of them is the Self-esteem, which is the value we give to our being, the set of corporal, mental and spiritual traits that define our personality and that we learn during our life; therefore many of these traits can be modified and improved.
Since kids we started to have an idea of how others see us and we are acquiring awareness of our experiences; These are factors that influence our self-esteem and that determine how we see ourselves, what we think and feel about that self-image and the degree of self-acceptance and rejection that we project towards others.
Sometimes we have acquired the wrong meaning of the words, making that there are some wrong ways of using the word self-esteem, such as “pride” which is a feeling of superiority before others, “selfishness” is always feeling that I am the most important and not taking others into account, “foolishness” when we are not flexible in ideas and attitudes and the “vanity” that manifests in the conviction of never contemplate the failure.
The wrong concept of the word self-esteem can be modified if it is based on the fact that the value of a person is not measured by his material possessions, his successes or his failures, but that we should take others into account, accept that human relationships are important and they must be maintained through the respect; recognize that we do not know everything and that we do not have the absolute truth; understand that our experiences are a learning process that helps us to identify our strengths and our weaknesses.
Self-esteem is the motor or generating force of motivation that leads us to carry out actions in our life, which are the reflection of our thoughts that when externalized they become in behaviors. These behaviors manifest our beliefs that ideally should be based on the firm conviction of our right to “be happy” and fight to achieve it.
Self-esteem is confidence, appreciation and respect for oneself; It is to appreciate your own value and importance and having the character to respond for yourself and act responsibly towards others. Beliefs are the predisposed and organized filters of our perception of the world, it can be said that they are the ones that govern our brain. Beliefs are what mainly distinguish those who stand out in something great from those who fail, since faith in what we are and can become determines quite exactly what we will be.
There is a special and scientific method to modify beliefs systems and achieve our goals by modeling excellence on the successes of others; which was developed by two great researchers and co-creators of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), Richard Bandler and John Grinder.
We require to put into motion the infinite potential that we possess, increase our emotional maturity, reinforcing our qualities through the use of the tools of Neuro-Linguistic Programming and thus achieve beliefs changes, clarify our values, eliminate fears and strengthen the competencies that allow us to achieve success and be happy.
Increasing self-esteem is not a luxury, it is an inescapable necessity
